LOL. I'm sorry, Darth Vader is sexy. What the hell is with that line? Everybody's quoting it.
I completely get what you mean. It's the same with guys my age actually. But I suppose it's a culture, a bad one at that, that everyone feels obliged to conform to, which I could never understand. I feel kinda bad for you, I mean I don't know you but it's not hard to see you're far more decent than most people and I feel bad because it's going to be very hard for you to find someone like yourself [not completely but on the same level you know] that's not hideous or psychotic.
Just stop looking, good people gravitate towards other good people.