You hear so many people claim they're looking for love, looking for one person that turns their world upside down and right side up. I argue that they are looking for happiness, and will do almost anything to get that happiness. Some people live life and never get married or pursue relationships. They've found something that makes them happy, and thus have no reason to find love. Love is just an idea of hope, hope that the happiness you search for can be found with a certain person. Take this for example, which is becoming all too common among teenagers:
Guy meets a girl, they really like each other, they start dating, then, one of them begins to like someone else, but they wanna stay with the person they're with, and then the other person gets wind of it, and they break up, so that the person who likes someone else can be "happy". The other person ends up wanting to kill himself because what little happiness he had with the person was better than having no happiness at all. You realize how many times a teenager goes through that?
Now, take for example, my Physical Science teacher, who is happy teaching, collecting guitars, listening to music, and doing woodwork. He's not married, not dating. In fact, he lives with his dad, helping him take care of himself.
You are not looking for love, you're looking for happiness. =]
provide YOUR OWN happiness for yourself! if you are going to depend on OTHERS, for happiness, well get ready, you are going to be in for "A LOOOONG SERIES OF FAILED RELATIONSHIPS"! so in other words; become happy with yourself first, and LOOK for that same trait in another! in yr senario(above), when one person starts to like someone else, that person is clearly not happy with themself. unless they truely, become happy with themselfs, that person will be doomed to repete a vicious cycle, of jumping from one person to another, for the rest of their lives. so take my advise, stay away from those misserable sods! good luck! peace bro!
It's happiness, or more specifically, satisfaction. If being in love satisfies you, you look for love. If being married satisfies you, you look for marriage. If eating chocolate all day everyday everyday is satisfying, then you eat a buttload of chocolate, and if eating chocolate disgusts you, then eating chocolate most certainly does not satisfy you.
Human beings seek self-satisfaction above all else. The "selfless" people just find satisfaction in helping others and make the world what they believe to be a better place. For example, someone who pioneers to end world hunger isn't bothered by the fact that people are starving, they are bothered by the feeling of discontent and dissatisfaction that THEY FEEL in regards to it.
Even writing this comment satisfied me more than if I had not written it, thus explaining why I bothered to write it at all. I was satisfied with my opinion being heard and hearing other people's opinions of it.
This doesn't explain everyone's situations. I myself was never like the other teenagers. Never following trends, never(and still don't drink alcohol, or smoke) never "dated" anyone. Of course when you're young you like everyone, but for me I just waited and I was happy, quite happy. At the end of grade 12, I then found my wife. Where I was and still am and always will be the happiest person. She shares the same outlook on life as myself and we of course love each other and do everything together, and I wouldn't ask for anything else in life, because everything else doesn't matter. The world today tends to forget about the individuals and couples whom are very different from what society expects. So, this is a really one sided "blog".
No, it doesn't. And I will go ahead and say I was going through a time much like the one I described in the blog when I wrote this, and this was, in all actuality, a vent, with no real intention of people reading it.
But, no, it doesn't. I know people who are happy without dating. I'm happy for them. They're the smart ones =P
gr8 job buddy.. i agree with you.. But i guess u cant be that specific with the word happiness.. Happiness is a feeling that we get from different activities and so it can be from any part of life, it may be a work you are doing or a person with whom you are in contact with, or an object that you own.. And when talking about the people who fall in love, they too are in search of happiness, but that happiness lies hidden behind the love and carings they urge for from some one ... thier wish to find someone who would love them as much as they would do if someone would ask them to.. but taking this topic as a whole , what you told was very true and appriciatable..
It may, and that's what I was getting at. Everyone's looking for happiness, and, for most people, the ultimate symbol of happiness is love. And so everyone's "looking for love", so to speak, especially teenagers. And, I'll admit, I'm a teenager, and yes, I'm "looking for love", but, if I don't have it, I've got other things I can do that keep me happy.
People can go through so much these days, poverty, starvation and of course deadly violation such as murder or suicide, but I believe in what you are saying if a person is saying he is only looking for love he is either lying or is confused about what he wants it is confusing somewhat but what they are actually looking for is happiness. Happiness is like a tree it has many different branches and none of them are the same and the fact is love is one of those branches.
People are inherently lonely creatures, as one would definitely gather from watching that twisted, psychological anime series Neon Genesis Evangelion! Yes, there's no rule saying that everyone must stumble upon love or else perish in a horribly depressed manner. Isn't life all about finding happiness and those precious moments that make existence worthwhile? Finding "true love" is just a shortcut out of discovering real, profound individual contentment, or else a delightful complement. Not all people who discover their significant other (hey, that rhymes, kind of!) are inwardly unaccomplished beings, but it is a possibility that many are. It's not wrong to be "in love", but it's not wrong to NOT be "in love", either!
I agree that teens go through this process all too often. They also take things too seriously too quickly. There are several UGers who complain about being 16 and never having a girlfriend. I tell them to slow down because in all honesty, they have no idea.
But I think for a lot of people love means happiness, and vice versa. But some people can seperate the two. Or at least distinguish them.
for me, love=happiness. wjk<3nrm 6/6/08 to current and still going strong. people shouldnt build relationships on looks alone, people that do are shallow. thats what i think anyway
well, i'm rather happy, and i think that you're right, what makes me happy is guitar, i've never had a relationship, pffh, then again, i'm 14, idc, which is odd for a teenager, but i grew out of that stage a bit faster than others, but my point is love is something pointless to chase unless it'll make you happy
I think the situation is obviously different with regards to the different personalities people have. For me, I wanted to get a girlfriend really bad for a long time, but it wasn't until I got a girlfriend that I realized how much happiness you actually do get out of having someone that you love, and better yet someone that loves you. When we broke up after a couple of years I realized just how much pain there is in not having that type of happiness anymore. I also remembered the things that made me happy before a relationship (having more time to myself to play guitar, listen to music, read books, make my own decisions, etc). I can't deny that I still really yearn to find love again, but I think I would be ok if I didn't. I don't think I'm as happy as when I was in a relationship, but I am definitely happier than I was before the relationship.
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