one of the worst things short of killing that one person can do to
another in a relationship. It can be defined by a variety of things,
and it most definitely varies from person to person. To start off,
boundaries should be set in the very early stages (if not the first
day) of a relationship. Each should discuss what they consider cheating
and what is acceptable. But this is a blog, so I guess I'll start
stating my side.
How I define cheating, is something that I find
insulting to me. For instance, if my girlfriend kissed another guy,
whether it be sober or drunk, that is cheating. Now, the circumstances
are what decide how bad it is. If she kisses the guy on the cheek
because she's really happy because of something really nice he did for
her, I could turn the other cheek and think nothing of it. However, if
she was to kiss him on the lips, that's disturbing to me and I would
definitely consider it bad news for her. So everything after that is
cheating: making out, groping, oral sex, casual sex (obviously).
about all the flirtatious hugs/texts she may give/send to other guys,
it varies on how much I trust her. If she engages in those activities
early in the relationship, then I'll be more skeptical of thinking us
two have a chance for a long-term relationship. If I notice her adding
hearts in her texts or saying she misses them, that's usually a clue to
me that she's feeling something for him. Or if she get's overly
physical with her hugs (e.g. grabs his ass) and asks for them
frequently, then it'll get me thinking.
Now on to the most
confusing gray area out there: her hanging out with other guy friends.
I in no way want to be controlling of her, and prevent her from hanging
out with other male friends. But also, there's a point where you start
to question your trust in her. Is she going out with just him? Is it
always/usually a late night thing? Does she ever take priority of
hanging out with him over you? If you answer yes to any of these
questions, then you might want to keep an eye out. And I don't mean go
around and stalk her, seeing everything she does with the guy, just
make a judgment call. Do you think you have a good possibility of being
hurt in the long run? Do you really think she is (considering) cheating on you? If yes to either, then I'd usually end it. Better to be safe than I sorry.
so everyone knows, I have never experienced what it feels like to be
cheated on, nor have I ever done it myself. I can only imagine the pain
one must go through for suffering this, and I hope that I never come
across its path in my life. But I have a feeling, if it were to happen to be, I don't think I could forgive them, much less give them a second try.